The phrase that ended our loudest arguments

The phrase that ended our loudest arguments

We used to escalate within ninety seconds. What changed was one sentence: "Are you asking me to fix this or to sit with you?" It sounds mechanical the first few times you say it. After a month it stopped being a script and started being a habit. Most of our fights were never about the topic, they were about one of us solving while the other wanted company. What is the sentence that works in your house?